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You Are Emotionally Intoxicated

written by Dr. Dalila Teixeira

I feel vulnerable, I get angry easily and that overwhelming feeling of just wanting to leave and leave everything. At times I feel passion and interest and suddenly I jump to indifference in a thousandth of a second, because just as it causes me to carry out a project it can get me enormously bored.
I am on a constant roller coaster. Laughter and crying accompany me and destabilize me in the most unexpected moments. It takes me a lot of effort to separate my present and past worries and insecurity reigns in my life.
I frequently react out of proportion and cannot clearly express my thoughts and emotions, which is causing me a lot of problems. Also, as soon as I don’t feel comfortable with anything or with anyone, I am drowning because I feel a deep need to have someone to take me by the hand …
Do you identify yourself or someone in your environment with these words? This could be the speech of a person under the influence of emotional intoxication or, what is the same, with emotional problems related to stress, anxiety and depression.
Many of us have a clear understanding of what the effects of alcohol poisoning are. We know that our ability to perceive is altered, that the heart rate slows down, that our ability to react decreases, etc. But are we able to interpret the signals that tell us that we are overwhelmed by our emotions?
If you are going through or have been through moments of great emotional charge, it is likely that you need to purify your emotions. Although the causes are diverse, emotional intoxication is the consequence of not giving ourselves time daily to cultivate our interior.

1. Always on the defensive

As we have been commenting, a person who is intoxicated by her emotions has activated the “self-protection mode”, through which he protects himself from what he believes can harm him.
When our emotions overwhelm us, we may constantly misinterpret actions or perceive the words of others as an attack. In fact, we attend only at times and become extremists.
This happens because our self-esteem is completely diminished, which makes us feel vulnerable to any event. Our emotions block us and cause us to selectively attend to the negative, causing any trifle to affect us directly.
As a consequence, we distort the words and wills of others and we will react aggressively and disproportionately, believing that we must protect ourselves from a danger that is only in our minds, it is an imminent catastrophic vision.

2. Altered Perceptions

It is likely that, when you are observing what is happening around you with the glasses of your emotions, you will not listen to yourself or others. After all, doing so may seem like a waste of time, a very selfish attitude, and even narcissistic and childish. The bad news is that not getting rid of these conflicts can lead to a multitude of problems.
For example, nervousness, impatience and uncontrolled emotional reactions have their origin here, in how little we stop to think about how we are understanding and attending to our surroundings.

3. Criticism, your biggest limitation

One of the reasons it is so difficult to deal with an intoxicated person is because the barrier of intransigence is self-imposed. They don’t pass a single one, not even to themselves.
If you feel this way, it is possible that, in your eagerness to have everything under control and prevent something from interfering in your life, you do not give yourself a minimum margin of action. Try to be more benevolent with yourself and with others. Letting go from time to time without evaluating the results is very liberating.

4. Insecurity on the surface

If you feel like you are intoxicated, you have probably realized that your insecurities have surfaced and are running your life. You become more reactive and defensive frequently.
Your self-esteem is completely hurt and you feel that you are vulnerable to any event that occurs. It is likely that you feel that you have no strength and that you are unable to clearly understand how you feel, what you are like and even what you are capable of doing.
As a consequence, you will think that you need someone by your side to make up for your shortcomings, protect you and direct your day to day, because you cannot do anything for yourself. Obviously, this aspect must be worked on with the aim of regenerating our autonomy and our emotional identity. It is necessary to grow.

5. No strength to continue

Emotional overload can overwhelm us to the point of shutting down. Feeling off means not having the strength and not being able to reactivate yourself. Need for constant push and approval.
When our vitality is extinguished, we choose to close the curtains and protect ourselves from our own feelings, giving up an essential part of our being. In short, it takes a great effort, mental and physical, to make decisions and be aware of everything, because you do not have the strength to face daily challenges. Self-love review is essential.

6. Emotionally blocked: paralyzed in action

When we are flooded by our emotions we are unable to mentally filter our emotional and sentimental reactions. As a consequence of this, our ability to communicate, to make decisions and to move forward is diminished, so we will find ourselves in situations in which we respond inadequately or simply do not know how to respond. That phrase “I don’t know” becomes a constant
Being emotionally intoxicated prevents you from thinking before speaking and taking perspective on what is happening. Your attention and memory are excessively selective, which is aggravated by an argument, as you begin to distort the words you hear and draw your own conclusions, which help you to corroborate your frustrations and your problems. And the phrase “makes me feel bad” becomes another constant
You must always have a cool head, warm your heart and hold out your hand, said Confucius. A hot reaction makes us control our emotions and explode our impulses, so we will not be ourselves if we act at that moment. So just focus on your breathing and clear your mind.

7. Letting go despite emotional vertigo

We are afraid of getting rid of what has been with us, either very close or for a long time. That is why we cannot get rid of it or let it go, even though it is causing us suffering.
If normal costs us, when our emotions have invaded us we face an even greater fear of emotional emptiness. This happens because we understand that, although our emotional architecture is about to collapse, there are some basic pillars that we cannot demolish.
Obviously we are wrong, this perception is the result of exhaustion and the blockage caused by emotional intoxication.
That emotional void can only be filled when you believe in your capabilities again and unconditional love is expressed in your life.
We must take time to cultivate our interior and purify our emotions. Being intoxicated we take everything to the extreme and misinterpret the words and actions of others.
Relaxation, meditation are highly beneficial practices to achieve states of tranquility. They allow you to calm the scattered mind that is overwhelmed by the arrival of automatic thoughts that trigger endless reactions and emotions that add discomforts and symptoms that we do not read properly.
When you feel this way and you think you are going to lose control, it is time to seek professional help from specialists in Psychiatry and Psychology. What happens to you is an important warning that something in your life must change. Dare to discover it and become a better person for yourself and for the world.

Dra. Delilah teixeira,
Psychiatrist Therapist

Stress and Emotion

written by Dr. Dalila Teixeira

Stress is defined as a feeling of both physical and emotional tension. Emotional stress usually occurs in situations considered difficult or unmanageable, therefore different people perceive different situations as stressful.
Physical stress refers to the physical reaction of the body to various triggers, such as pain after surgery. Physical stress often leads to emotional stress and the latter is frequently experienced as physical discomfort
It is important to note that the way we perceive stress or stressful situations has a lot to do with our thoughts, learned behaviors and previous situations.
When we do not know how to manage or handle our emotions, especially unpleasant ones such as anger, fear, displeasure, frustration, sadness, guilt, among others, physical and psychological symptoms begin to appear that make us sick, and Anxiety appears, which is a very frequent and generally bad mental disorder. handled.
Anxiety, in turn, when it becomes chronic, can trigger panic attacks and depression
Keywords here: Prevention, management of emotions which consists of recognizing and expressing them without harming ourselves or others.
The overload of emotional tension generated by intrinsic or internal and extrinsic or external factors can cause physical symptoms in the individual and in some cases disabling diseases.

Symptoms like:

• Unexplained and unreasonable tension between co-workers and their boss, between family members, or between groups of friends that didn’t seem to exist before.
• Language changes – talking too loud or too fast
• Observe your posture, muscle tone and flexibility, facial expressions, eyes, nervous tics, very frequent yawns among others
• Outbursts of anger or other signs of emotional instability.
• Sleep disorders especially to conciliate it
• Changes in appetite

When these and other symptoms appear, our body is already warning us that something is wrong. Giving it the correct reading will help us manage the situation
Behind these symptoms may be emotions such as anger, frustration, fear, disgust, sadness that we repress or deny but that are expressed with the symptom
Pay attention to what the body tells us

Dra. Delilah teixeira,
Psychiatrist Therapist

How To Deal With Frustration

written by Dr. Dalila Teixeira

Daniel Goleman creator of Emotional Intelligence raises special talents are worth nothing if you do not learn to handle frustration.

• Things don’t always turn out the way you want
• You don’t always get what you want
• Your expectations are not always met
• Sometimes you feel like giving everything and not getting enough

Then an unpleasant emotion called Frustration arises. It feels like anger, it feels like pain; but it’s frustration.

What is the difference between anger and frustration?
They may seem like the same emotions but they are not, although they have some similarities we also find many differences. Anger is a very powerful emotion, it mobilizes and energizes you to respond to a harmful situation. However, other times you are sure to experience other emotions that do not correspond to authentic anger but you live it as such. This is the case of frustration, as there is a very fine line that distinguishes them. For this reason, it is important that you know the difference between anger and frustration.

Anger responds to direct damage –

Anger appears when you perceive that there is a harmful or unfair situation in your life. It is very powerful and mobilizing. Often seen as bad or negative. But if you learn to manage it, you will learn from it because it will teach you to protect yourself. It teaches you to set limits, so as not to allow a situation or person to continue hurting you, or will make you walk away from them.

Frustration responds to loss of expectations –

Frustration appears when your expectations are not met. In other words, when there is no specific achievement.
There is no harm or intent to harm here. Only that what you thought was going to happen did not happen as you expected.
How do you handle frustration?
Here are some useful recommendations

1. Acknowledge that you are frustrated

The most important thing about emotions is to recognize them and not be ashamed of feeling them
Recognizing that you are frustrated allows you to focus on yourself and everything that did not allow you to achieve what you wanted.

2. Trust your potential

Knowing who you are and what you are capable of will make you cope with frustration, because even if you have not met your expectations, you do not stop believing in yourself and in what you can achieve. It is only an obstacle that you have to analyze because you could not overcome it.

3. Recognize your limitations

Accepting that we may have limitations helps us not to victimize ourselves and to develop plans to always give our best. When I speak of limitations I mean physical, technical, knowledge. Not mental or one of those that fill us with I can not because of fear or not trust in myself.

4. Don’t take anything personal

Be careful with that Calimero syndrome of poor me, all of me. It is very important that if you are not recognized as you want, you are not treated as you want or your expectations were not met apart from; They have it with me, because that is not going to allow you to take responsibility for your mistakes or failures.
So first we evaluate inside and then outside.

5. Fine-tune your strategies

Check over and over again how you are doing. What pattern repeats. To be able to detect where the fault is.
Last but not least,

6. Meditate

Meditating is a very useful tool, as well as giving you a moment alone, it helps you find your focus and balance again.
It is not about aspiring to the Dalai Lama or Buddha but about finding peace and serenity and focusing. Find our essence.
Finally it is essential that you have a purpose and sense of life. Who has a reason to live, will always find the how. And no storm is going to bring you down.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Dra. Delilah teixeira,
Psychiatrist Therapist